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10 Ways to Blow It
Ten Ways to Blow It in a
Relationship
By Rinatta Paries
Published September 2002
What do you do when you've
attracted a lovely person into your life and now
you're terrified you're going to blow it? Or,
terrified it's going to end? Arm yourself with
the following strategies, and you're sure to blow
it in a relationship right from the start.
- Assume the person is
your soul mate immediately upon meeting or shortly
thereafter. Look for signs that faith has brought
you together and be amazed by the correlations
in your lives.
- Forget about your life,
your friends, your self-care. When you have
a soul mate, why would you need a life outside
of the relationship?
- Reveal everything, and
test your partner with your worst behavior.
Let it all hang out. After all, if this is truly
your soul mate, he or she will love you no matter
what.
- Have sex right away.
If you are meant to be together for a lifetime,
you might as well get started on the fun part
right away.
- Ignore anything about
your partner that does not mesh with your values,
lifestyle, or belief system. True love can conquer
such insignificant differences.
- Do lots of drama together.
Job, family, and life crises are great ways
to establish a relationship and test whether
or not you are meant to be together.
- Spend as much time together
as possible. When it's true love, you can't
bear to let your partner out of your sight.
- Ignore behavior that
crosses your boundaries or hurts your feelings.
It's true love, so it's ok.
- Lavish a huge amount
of attention on your partner or expect a huge
amount of attention to be lavished on you. How
else would you act if you finally found your
soul mate?
- Push the relationship
forward and demand that it go deeper, in spite
of where your partner is emotionally. You have
the right to have the relationship be exactly
how you want it to be and your soul mate owes
you that.
If you want some insurance
that your new relationship has every chance of
making it, be…
Honest
Communicative
Clear about your needs and boundaries
A good listener
On the other hand, your
relationship may end no matter what you do. But
being in fear it will end actually makes the end
more likely. To eradicate this fear, let go of
the attachment that the person you are with be
THE right person. Simply be with him or her one
day at a time.
Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries
| (c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002 |
This article was
originally published by Rinatta Paries in the Relationship Coach Newsletter,
one of many relationship resources found at www.WhatItTakes.com.
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