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The Fine Art of Fellatio
By Lauri Jean Crowe
Published January 2001

I can peel the skin off a grape with my mouth. No hands. A gentle twisting of tongue, careful play of the teeth and a movement of the cheek and there lies a beautiful green orb of pulpy flesh waiting to be squeezed and juiced. You say, “so what?” You must be one of those people who knows other people who can tie knots in cherries with their tongue, something I admittedly cannot do. However, learning to peel grapes with only the tool of my mouth was a wonderful excursion in learning skills to improve fellatio.

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The first time I ever gave head, I was naïve. I didn’t know what was wanted, needed, or what wonderful thrills my little mouth could give to a penis and the man attached to it. I mistakenly used my teeth. I drooled to the point of embarrassment. I sucked too hard or not enough. I just couldn’t seem to get it. Unlike many blessed individuals out there in the world of sex, I was not a natural born blow jobber.

So, I learned. As a teen I saw “Fast Times at Ridgemont High” with it’s vegetable training session and I knew many a girl who practiced long before ever engaging in fellatio on the carrots, cucumbers and other lengthy veggies in their momma’s fridge. Perhaps that helped them, but it made me feel ridiculous. I mean, a penis is really not so drastically tapered as a carrot, nor so orange and crisp. I figured there were three things to do, watch porn, learn more about my mouth and practice on a live model. I’ve gotten pretty good at giving head and it didn’t take long. So, here’s some tips and suggestions for those just starting out in the wonderful world of fellatio or those who need a refresher course:

1. Keep your focus on the penis. Don’t think about what you’re during, just feel the movements of your mouth and his flesh. This intense focus can guarantee a decent head job even if you are completely naïve like I was. Focus is in your favor, and his. Delete all other thoughts from your mind and just explore the penis.

2. Never lose contact with the penis. This means if your tongue or cheeks aren’t in contact with it, your hand or breath should be. Hot breath on a penis can be just as provocative as a long deep thrust to the back of your mouth. Don’t let that rascal lose once you have it in your possession.

3. Learn to nose breathe. Breathing through your mouth will lead to a sloppy drooling mess. You can practice this sans penis at any time. Simply shut your mouth and breathe through your nostrils.

4. Watch pornography. You will find that blow jobs are so common they get redundant. Still, pornography of this sort is primarily created to arouse men and watching what women in porn do to a penis will give you some things to try out. Long strokes, short tongue ticks to the head, a deep inhalation and even the bobbing for apples approach. Try out these styles on a willing partner and eventually they will become your own.

5. Don’t forget the balls. This tender area of the male anatomy also likes some attention. A gentle blow of hot air, a lick or flick of the tongue. Balls and penis go together and denying one is like someone paying attention to only one breast. Enjoy the diversity of both penis and balls in your fellatio.

6. Learn to peel grapes with your tongue, leaving the flesh of the grape whole and round. This was perhaps the best instruction I could have had. It takes great dexterity and gentleness. It takes tongue twists, sucking and a bit of nipping with the teeth. All useful skills for the fine art of fellatio.

Remember safe sex. A condom cloaked penis can get just as much pleasure from a good fellationado as an uncloaked one. Your safety should not be jeopardized for his pleasure, ever. Ever! Open lines of communication make any sexual excursion more satisfying, so don’t forget to ask your lover what he wants. Does he like long, regular sucks or variation? Some men like to be gently nibbled on, others like a lot of attention on the head of the penis, some just go for deep throat pleasures. Lastly, I must say this should you forgo the safe sex of a blow job with a condom – know if you spit or swallow and be discreet about it. There’s nothing more unappealing that someone who chokes and gags and then ends up vomiting (well, for a majority of the population anyhow). If you are a spitter, make sure your lover knows and ask him to indicate when he’s about to climax so you can back off, if you are unable to identify this critical phase yourself. If you swallow, more power to you and you’ll be very popular – just be sure you’re safe and know what you’re getting into and exactly what’s getting into you.

Writer:
Lauri Jean Crowe is a freelance writer known for such diverse topics as dreams, sexuality, gardening, health and parenting. She is a freelance writer, artist and designer living in Michigan, USA. Lauri Jean welcomes feedback at vu-writer@earthlink.net and is seeking serious individuals who wish to be interviewed about all aspects of sexuality.

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