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Female Ejaculation:
A new Reason
to Like Hot Chocolate.
By Lauri Jean Crowe
Published May 2001
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this article, Lauri Jean Crowe interviews
Stephanie, who accidentally discovered
the phenomenon of female ejaculation
and ran to the doctor's office! |
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excellent website at this link
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Female Ejaculation
is apparently fairly rare, but it's
harmless and normal.
It's an extremely
pleasurable experience.
The ejaculate is
clear and odorless and has nothing
to do with urine.
Some women can develop
the technique of achieving ejaculation.
There is little
or nothing known about it's evolutionary
purpose.
Target and K-Mart
have good towels on sale.
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And now, Lauri Jean Crowe's interview
with Stephanie.
LJCROWE: Let's talk about orgasms.
Have you ever faked one?
STEPHANIE: Every orgasm I had until
almost the age of 22 was fake. I kind of
had to fake them. I was married shortly
after my 18 birthday and had been with my
"husband" for about two years.
He was very controlling and abusive and
he would get very angry and accuse me of
having an affair if I did not have an orgasm
while having sex with him. So, I learned
how to fake them -- from the third time
we had sex until we divorced five years
later.
LJCROWE: You've said you had your
first "real" orgasm when you were
almost 22 years old, have you ever had an
ejaculatory orgasm?
STEPHANIE: Yes. It was shortly after
having my first real orgasm; maybe the second
or third time.
LJCROWE: How did that come about?
STEPHANIE: I was with my fiance'
at the time and he was stimulating me with
his hand. When I had an orgasm, there was
a feeling -- kind of hard to describe --
but not knowing what it was, I thought maybe
I had urinated a little or something. When
I said something out loud, my fiancé' told
me, "No, you just came -- it's okay."
But when I went to the bathroom and noticed
something on me and the tissue, I got scared.
I thought maybe there was something wrong
with me so I made a doctor's appointment.
I guess that not knowing much about sex
(I had only been with two men to this
point in my life) and being new to the whole
orgasm experience, my naivety got the best
of me.
LJCROWE: So, your fiancé' just said,
"it's okay" and had no other reaction?
STEPHANIE: My fiancé' was proud.
He said he had never made a woman cum that
hard before. I didn't tell him that it scared
me or anything; I just let him think what
he wanted.
LJCROWE: Were you more open with
your doctor about your fears?
STEPHANIE: Yes, I made a doctor's
appointment that day and was in his office
two days later. When I explained what happened,
he went to his office and brought me back
a paper he had photocopied out of one of
his books on "female ejaculation."
It was very informative and he explained
it all to me pretty well. He assured me
that I was not a freak, that there was nothing
physically wrong with me and that I was
actually a rare type of woman. I guess he
was trying to help me feel better about
it by making me feel special.
LJCROWE: And that you are. Having
never had one myself, can you explain how
an ejaculatory orgasm feels?
STEPHANIE: OK - this one is hard;
it kind of feels like when you drink a cup
of hot chocolate -- how it warms you as
it goes down -- only backwards. The feeling
warms you as you build and then as you reach
orgasm and then goes outward. Does that
make sense?
LJCROWE: Sort of. I've drank water
backward to get rid of hiccups, but this
sensation sounds like one you want to keep!
Can you control when you have them or are
they spontaneous?
STEPHANIE: No, I can't control it
-- or at least I haven't learned how to
yet if there is a way to control it. When
it happens, it happens but it doesn't happen
every single time. I know that when I have
a harder orgasm, I ejaculate but as I am
also multi-orgasmic, I only ejaculate with
the first one; I have never noticed it with
any after the first.
LJCROWE: This may sound naïve, but
how far does the ejaculate shoot?
STEPHANIE: Not far, if at all. As most of
the time it happens with vaginal sex, I
don't know how far it goes because there
is something blocking it from getting out.
But, with clitoral, it usually ends up on
the bed below me or the floor below me --
whichever the case may be.
LJCROWE: What advice would you have
for a woman experiencing her first ejaculatory
orgasm?
STEPHANIE: I would tell them that
if they have questions to ask their doctor
or research the topic to find out all they
can. I know there are not many female ejaculators
and because we are few and far between,
we should consider ourselves "special."
LJCROWE: And what about their partners?
Any advice?
STEPHANIE: Yes, don't make her feel
self conscious about it or you may hurt
her more then help. It is not a disorder
and she is not a freak or anything -- she
is just a woman who has the ability to have
different types of orgasm than most. From
what I have been told, there are a lot of
men who would love to be with a woman who
ejaculates. I have a guy friend who I did
tell about it and he told me some time later
that he asked his friends and they all said
it would be "exciting" and that
they would "really love to have sex
with a woman who ejaculates." So, that
makes me feel even better about the whole
thing.
LJCROWE: It doesn't sound like it's
something to feel bad about! How do you
feel about your ejaculatory orgasms now
vs. when they first began?
STEPHANIE: Well, I am a little more
relaxed now because I know what it is and
kind of why it happens. From the first time
when I was scared to now, it's a lot better
-- and so is my sex life. I know that I
am different then most woman and I know
that what happens to me is normal for me
so I am able to not focus on it and enjoy
my husband.
LJCROWE: Sounds like a great improvement
over faking orgasms.
Writer:
Lauri Jean Crowe is a freelance writer known
for such diverse topics as dreams, sexuality,
gardening, health and parenting. She is
a freelance writer, artist and designer
living in Michigan, USA. Lauri Jean welcomes
feedback at vu-writer@earthlink.net and
is seeking serious individuals who wish
to be interviewed about all aspects of sexuality.
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